Cheering up a person isn’t all that easy as it looks. All of us get sad, lonely and vulnerable from time to time and most of the times we wish there was someone to perk us up a bit or tell us something funny or just spend some time with us. Cheering up someone is about taking out some time, listening to them, relating to their problems and empathizing with them. What a person needs when he’s feeling low or sad is genuine care and concern. Everyone goes through hard times, everyone feels down in the dumps sometime or the other and if you genuinely want to lift up their spirit, you’ll make sure that they vent it out, get it off their chest. However, if you’re still at loss about how to cheer up someone or if your friend is down in the dumps, here are some tips that can make a difference.
10. Go out
A change of scenery always helps a person perk up. You can begin by taking your friend to the movies, or just for a nice stroll in the park. It will take their mind off troubles and cheer them up. One of the best things I know would be to take them to an amusement park, go crazy on the roller coaster rides and pig out on all sorts of junk food. Roller coaster rides are the best way to cheer up a friend, believe me, acting like lunatics in an amusement park, is just the craziest thing you can ever do and it is a surefire way to cheer up a friend. Roller rides are fun simply because of the adrenaline, specially that moment before dropping, Aaaahhhh!!! I’m pretty sure your friend will end up feeling good.
9. Let them vent
One of the best things you can do is to let the person vent out his feelings, all you have to do is to sit quietly and listen. Let them vent out all their anger and frustration. Listen to them with empathy and if they want to cry at the top of their lungs, let them. Crying always ends up making you feel pleasant and relieves all the stress. So let them pour out whatever’s bothering them, and remember to not advise them, unless they ask for it. They’re not really looking for tips or suggestions, just someone to whom they can express whatever’s freaking them out. Just listen and understand. Let them know you care.
8. Listen to them
Very often when someone’s troubled or depressed, we feel like we must advise them or tell them to do certain things which will make their troubles go away easily. Don’t do that! This most often than not can irritate and frustrate a person. They’re not looking for answers; they just want to be heard. So if you feel like they’re in a mood to talk, pull up a chair, smile and listen to them, relate to them, offer a shoulder for them to cry upon. Make them feel comfortable and if they’re expressing themselves, look and act genuine, try to genuinely empathize with them. When they realize that you are interested in their problems, they’ll open more. If they’re talking, don’t interrupt them, unless they want an answer. Once they get it off their chest, half the battle is solved. It makes the heart lighter and the person beings to feel better.
7. Watch a funny movie
I cannot even begin to count just how many times; I’ve cheered up my friends simply by making them watch a funny movie. It can even be a funny TV show. Anything that makes them laughs. Just bring out their biggest box of their favorite ice cream and you’re ready to go. Funny movies always are good icebreakers after you’ve talked about something serious for a long time. Not just movies, it can be anything, a silly cartoon, a laugh out loud video, anything. The internet is full of such funny video and web clips. It doesn’t really have to be something that can make them burst out laughing, although that works too, it can be something simple that tickles their funny bone. Laughter is the best medicine, as they say.
6. Send a gift basket
A gift basket is another good way to cheer up someone. If you can’t be with them physically or if you’re far away from them, a gift basket full of tiny little surprises can make them feel better instantly. You can put so many things in a little basket like, a music cd, a funny movie, flowers, chocolates, some presents, things that they love, magazines, scented candles and stuffed toys. I remember I use to feel so happy when my friend use to send me tiny little knick knacks, whenever I was away from home. You can have it wrapped and fill it with cheerful flowers, like sunflowers or dahlias and don’t forget to include a little love note.
5. Give them a hug
So, after they’re done talking, don’t leave them hanging, instead give them a good, long, tight hug. A person who is feeling sad or lonely often craves closeness and gentle assurances so a hug is the best, simplest and easiest way to assure them. Hold them and reassure them that you are there for them and show them that you care. A big, long, sincere hug is something that even the meanest person on earth can’t ignore so hug them , make sure to hug them as long as possible. Hugging is one of the powerful ways of healing; hugs have been known to boost oxytocin levels which heal feelings of loneliness, isolation and sadness. Everyone one needs a hug, even if they aren’t sad. A hug or a loving touch can go a long way in making your friend feel better.
Old photographs, some funny stories from school, inside jokes, all the crazy things you did together, reminiscing is a great way to lift someone’s spirit. Talk about all the fun you had when you were growing up or the crazy, stupid things you did in college or school, reminisce about the past and if it gets your friend, talking about something stupid, let them go on. It‘ll make them, feel nostalgic and remembering good times in bad times is what makes life worthwhile. All of us have had our share of bad times, embarrassing times, crazy times, so get talking; it’ll not only make you feel better but your friend also ends up feeling happy. If you’ve talked about everything, watch any old TV show you used to watch together, it gives a sense of warmth and satisfaction and it will bring a smile to their face.
3. Go crazy
Act stupid, make silly faces, talk about silly, stupid, nonsensical things, cook up something weird, pig out on ice-cream, laugh out loud like banshees, make prank calls, send each other wacky voicemails, impersonate a celebrity, make funny noises, do karaoke, sing at the top of your voice, give silly names to each, it doesn’t matter, as long as you’re both going crazy, that’s what counts.be willing to make a fool of yourself, just for your friend’s happiness. A little self-deprecation harms no one. Doing something silly will take their’ mind off their troubles .If they’re not willing to do something crazy , don’t pester them, instead do something simple, like cook something nice for them, read them a funny story or just about anything else to help them out.
2. Go for an adventure
I’ve always found that one of the best ways to cheer up someone is to take them on an adventure. It can be anything, anywhere, like even for a horror movie, or doing something extreme, like bungee jumping or para-sailing. You can take them out on a long drive, stop on the way over, try different cuisines, and just let them take in the surroundings. turn up the radio and take a long drive through a nice scenic town or go to the beach, go fishing , or you can even take them for a hike or a swimming , take them to a new restaurant or even shopping, if you’re willing to do that much. Anything works, as long as it put a smile on their face.
Sometimes no matter what , no matter how much we try and no matter how much we try to cheer someone one up, it doesn’t’ work. That’s when we must accept that sometimes people need to be sad, sometimes, they just need privacy and little alone time. Sometimes, all of us need a little time to self-reflect, analyze and refuel. So if you’re friend doesn’t seem to respond to anything you do, leave them alone. We can’t expect people to just snap out of their sadness, it just doesn’t work that way. Everyone is different and people get upset over different things. All you can do , when a person refuses to respond or wants to be left alone, is to assure them that you are there for them and that you care, they just have to look for you. Make yourselves available and promise them that you’ll be with them by their side. That alone can make a huge difference.