Life is no fun without friends. Friends make you feel sane and lively. A common social issue people face is regarding making friends and putting together a social life. Making friends can be extremely inconvenient and cumbersome for some people while it’s a very easy thing for others. No need to worry if you don’t belong to the latter group of people. It’s no big deal to make friends but its not easy either. There are a few simple tips that can help you make friends.
10. Desperation Never Helps but Patience Does!
You can’t just become good friends right away. You have to be patient and wait until you bond with your new friends. Being desperate and pushy is completely useless. Get to know your friends slowly and wait for your friendship to develop. It’s not very easy to get casual with your new friends. But with time you’ll get comfortable with each other. All you need to do is to be patient and wait till your friendship develops naturally. Don’t expect quick results because building friendship takes lot of time and effort.
9. Join a Social Organization
You can join a book club, recreational or community center. This will give you an opportunity to meet lots of people and broadens your chance of making more friends. You can also meet people with common interests as you, with whom you can become friends easily. Using the social networking sites is also a good idea if you want to make new friends. These sites serve as a platform where you can meet different people and become friends. These can be a lot of fun experience and give you a chance to meet the right people.
8. Talking to Connect
If you want to make friends then you have to know people better. This can be achieved only if you talk to different people whom you meet. Striking a conversation with people you come across will provide a better chance for you to make friends. It’s okay to talk to anybody so try not to be too picky. The conversations may either end up boringly or interestingly but you’ll definitely find people with whom you can connect to. Keep the conversation light and don’t get into a deep one. Most people like small talks.
7. Be Nice to People
Doing something kind for people can help you win their friendship. In fact it will also give you a lot of satisfaction and happiness. This is because when you are nice to people, they also tend to be nice to you. Some amazing friendships can be built this way. Caring for people around you is a simple way to attract friends. Don’t say nasty things to people and avoid any discussions on touchy subjects. Treat them with respect no matter what kind of person they are.
6. Stay in Contact
Always be in touch with your friends. Stay connected with new people you meet. You can do this through e-mail or a social network. Don’t be afraid to ask their Facebook, Twitter, Google+, email address, phone number etc. You need to be in contact in order to become friends. Call your friends once in a while and keep in touch. It is even better if you visit them often or invite them to your place. But take care not to overdo it.
5. Art of Listening
To gain friendship of people you need to be a good listener. Listen carefully to what your new friends say and remember all the important details about them like their interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes etc. This way you can know them better. People like people who pay attention to them. You can attract friends by listening attentively to what they have to say. Show interest in them and ask meaningful questions about them. Cultivating the habit of listening can get you more friends.
4. Be Social
It’s of no use to be shy or anti-social. It can be commonly noticed that shy people don’t have many friends. Being around people has many benefits than you can imagine. If you want to make friends, being social allows you to do it. You have to overcome social awkwardness, insecurities, fears, expectations and introvertism in order to make friends. Relax, stay confident, cheer up and stop feeling embarrassed. Interact freely with people. All these help a great deal in making friends. Socializing definitely helps you gain friends! Build a social circle by inviting potential friends into your social life.
3. Try to be yourself
It’s important to be yourself if you truly wish to make some real friends. Pretending to be someone else in order to make friends is of no help as such friendships mostly don’t work out. Feeling awkward to be yourself in front of people or being embarrassed for having different likes and opinions than others are things you have to ignore to engage with new people and make friends. You shouldn’t be afraid to express your opinions and must ignore about what others might say. The truth is that people who like you when you are yourself are the ones that’ll make the best of your friends. People who don’t accept when you are yourself aren’t your real friends. Keep in mind that you can be yourself and still make great friends; you don’t have to change yourself into someone who you are not to get people to like you.
2. Confidence is Important
Take your time to build confidence but never give up on increasing your confidence. Feeling confident is very important if you wish to make friends. You can’t get the attention of people if you are not confident. People who lack self-confidence are often ignored by their peers. Remember that it’s all about confidence. Without it you will not be able to make many friends. If you really wish to have many friends then you have to make enough effort. Nervousness won’t help you for anything, so give it up. Stay confident or at least fake it till you build some as suggested by Steven Tyler’s quote which says “Fake it until you make it”.
“Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.” – Mother Teresa.
The most easy and simple way by which you can make friends is by smiling. A smile makes you look warm and friendly. Most of you underestimate the power of a smile. An honest smile can help you make lasting friendships. You might wonder how a simple smile can get you friends, but trust me and try smiling more often, you’ll know yourself. It is okay to fake confidence but try not to put on a fake smile. It can be easily discovered. Only a genuine smile can get you longstanding friendships.