Congratulations on finding the girl of your dreams! After years of searching, filtering and dreaming, there she is – single and ready to begin a new chapter in your life. But how are you actually going to propose to her? Have you thought about what you’re going to say to her or rather what not to say to her? Have you picked out the right place and time for it? Well, I am sure you did. But here is the inside scoop, love proposals never work out that way. They are never like what they show in the movies and ‘obviously’ there is never going to be a second chance. People always tend to choke and turn their perfectly crafted moment into a disaster. But don’t worry since you’re not the first one to go through it, you’ve got plenty of help. Here is a fool proof guide that will tell you exactly how not to choke when proposing.
10. Don’t over plan it
If you have had previously proposed to any girl, you would probably know this better than anyone – Proposals never go according to plan. Though the unpredictable behavior of girls can be stated as one obvious reason for it, in reality the actual reason is, too much planning puts too much pressure. So let’s say you ordered for the perfect set of flowers from your favorite orchard for the day of proposal, planned out a dinner place and probably even picked out the spot and the dish you’re going to order. What if even anyone of them lets you down? Obviously you’re going to break down and choke. So don’t plan it, just let thing happen as they usually do.
9. Be ready to postpone if things don’t seem right
Now this is something that you should probably etch in to the back of your hand, because the main reason for most failed proposals is wrong timing. So let’s say you are in the midst of a romantic dinner, on the rooftop of the most expensive restaurant in the city, and you’re just about to bring out the flowers, and wham! The waiter spills some food on your girl’s dress driving her mad. Now the urge in any boy’s head would be to completely ignore it and still propose. But remember this – girls never try to differentiate between people when they are mad. So unless you want some fine champagne poured on your face, don’t propose if the timing is not right.
8. Stay stubborn with your decision
The mind plays all kinds of tricks when talking to someone and it’s especially at its best when proposing. It constantly tries to demotivate you from doing it or tries to pop up all kinds of negative things that can happen from proposing. So if you let it do its job, you’re definitely going to choke worse than the time you last had anchovies. So make up your mind and be stubborn. If you think she is the right girl, then she is, there’s no turning back. Let any problem after the proposal, you will sure have a great companion to face it together with.
7. Discuss with your closest friend
Trust me when I say this, our friends know us a lot better than we actually do. Yes, there have been many forehead slapping moments when you have accused your friends – “Why didn’t you tell me this before” when you first started to realize what you are doing wrong. But here is the truth, they always have advised you, it was you who just wasn’t ready to listen. So discuss your idea of proposing, with your friend on a personal level first. Consent from those who know you well can really give you a boost in confidence when proposing.
6. Ditch the phone and internet
Right from exam halls to prayer halls, you have always been advised to switch off your phone. Though you may not have heeded to advice then, when proposing its better if you do, because distractions can really choke you to death when proposing. Though we tend to be as serious as possible when doing something as serious as proposing, checking mails and text as soon as the phone goes ‘beep’ has sort of become our second nature. And if you’re phone rings just when you’re about to propose, god help you. So just switch it off, after all who could be more important than her.
5. Propose after a physically exhaustive activity
Now I am not directly or indirectly suggesting that you should propose after a tough cardio workout, or take your girl to a trekking trip and propose, after she is half dead. All I am saying is don’t propose on a dull mood or on a murky day. Probably take her for a horse ride, ice skating, snow bowling or even a slow walk down the alley before you propose. It refreshes the brain and provides a sense of pleasure to the body, which makes it perfect for proposing.
4. Remind her of the best memories
Try to imagine proposing to someone who stares down at you like your physics teacher used to do in the tenth grade. Sounds horrible doesn’t it? Well in such a situation, be ready to be stutter like a steam rail engine. So first cheer her up, remind her of the best memories, and make her laugh and smile till tear drops roll out of her eyes. And when she finally settles down, do thy bidding – it just never fails.
3. Never Choose a Public Place
Now come on repeat after me – NEVER choose a public place. I know what you’re thinking; proposing in a public place will be romantic and memorable. Well yes, if you are living in a Hollywood set it probably will, but we don’t. In a busy world where people will stomp you to death if you even bend your head for a second, I honestly don’t suggest you kneel down in a busy area. Choose a romantic restaurant or a private resort and propose, it will help you not to choke at least.
2. Get her in the mood
Girls have this innate ability to flirt when you want to have a good conversation and push you into the friend zone when you want to flirt. Though every girl is different, they have a mysteriously unanimous orientation in this matter. So first talk her in to, don’t go saying “hey baby, want to love me” as the first sentence. Take your time and be subtle, don’t mess it up.
1. Propose after a good meal
Unless you’re having lobster or any other crustacean that you or your girlfriend may be allergic to, proposing after a good meal can really ease up the mood. Good food activates all the pleasure sensors of the body and actually puts the mind in a sort of trance. So if you’re going to propose, do it after you satisfy your tummy, even a good drink might help.
So there you have it, a fool-proof guide to proposing and not actually choking when doing it. So try it out and let me know if it actually helped you out. Good luck.