The world is peppered with those sort of people whose only pleasure is seeing the suffering of others. Though a lot of them are just happy seeing others suffer and fail from a distance, there are some for whom that just isn’t enough. They need a piece of the cake and want to torment people themselves on a personal level. And these special kind of social misfits are termed as bullies. They can usually be found anywhere and everywhere and are not just confined to schools and colleges. They can be found in a workplace, public gatherings and even in your own street. This article outlines reasons for you to ignore a bully and how to deal with them.
10. Know your enemy
Old Asian proverb advices that knowing the enemy is half the battle won. Of course when you have spent a good part of your life dealing with a bully, you’re pretty sure to know what he is capable of. But if you have encountered one for the first time, you need to figure out first what kind of bully he is. He may either be an Aggressive bully who relishes in tormenting people physically, or a verbal bully who loves to spread rumors and verbally abuse people or worst an indirect bully, who you never knew that he existed until the point when he gets an opportunity.
9. You can’t be harassed if you’re not there
It’s much easier to live happily when there are no existent troubles and the same goes with bullies too. I know this kind of sounds like a cowardly thing to do, but avoiding something unnecessary is not cowardice. Bullies are just a part of your life, a very small irrelevant part, so instead standing toe to toe with them and fighting it out and in process ruining your life, just avoid them. But be careful, don’t avoid them in them presence, like don’t cross over the street after they have seen you, or hide behind people to stay out of their radar. Just avoid the place they usually are, altogether.
8. Ignore their threats and bullying
Though this may not be the case with aggressive bullies, it is very well possible with verbally abusive bullies and online bullies. If someone is calling you names and bullying you by verbally abusing you in conversation, just pay no heed and act as if he is not even there. This will definitely piss him off and make him insecure, he should eventually stop. Just don’t react to him in anyway or get aggressive because of his bullying. Similarly if it’s an internet bully, just delete him from your account or block him out altogether.
7. Sarcasm doesn’t work with bullies
Most bullies are pretty dumb and are bullies in the first place because they can’t put together any sentence in the English language properly. So don’t try to get back at bullies with your wisecrack jokes or try sarcasm with them. They and their cronies will never understand that you’re insulting them, but will only believe they are gaining control over you, because of your reaction. So as explained earlier, if you find yourself alone with a bunch of bullies just walk right past them as if they don’t exist, don’t try to get down to their level.
6. Target your bully’s insecurities
Bullies are not exactly the kind of people who are attractive to look at or even to have a conversation with. They are usually those fat huge kids, with freckles all over their face and look almost like sunburnt bacon. And usually they are total failures in the class room too. So use these against them, like say if you’re at the gym and if you see a bully standing by, challenge him to do something that his physical appearance will never allow, in front of the public, like say hurdles. He will definitely try to prove you wrong and will embarrass himself in front of the huge crowd.
5. Report to authorities
Keep this as a last resort, and report to the authorities like your principal, counselor, parents, or even the police if required when you sense things can get out of hand. But be sure to foresee the problem and report it earlier, reporting something after the maximum damage has been done is pointless. There may be consequences for reporting bullying, but if he reacts to your reports just threaten him with another report. The bully’s reaction to reporting clearly indicates that he is scared as well. You should be able to see him staving off from you after a few reports to the proper authorities, but be sure to report to people who can do something about it.
4. Help each other out
Bullies don’t target just one weakling in an entire school, they target plenty of people whom to them look weak. So if you see someone else in trouble or getting bullied, never hesitate to dive in and support the other guy. This will surely make the bully understand that he is no longer dealing with a single person but a whole group. And also it will earn the respect of your friends as well who will follow you and return back the favor. Remember, when acting as a group nothing can ever overpower you.
3. Martial arts is the way to go
Aggressive bullies can only be dealt with two ways, by either avoiding them or by fighting back. Avoiding them may work out for a while, but if the bully has a personal grudge against you he is definitely going to track you down and hurt you when you’re least expecting. So signup for some martial arts class and let the bully know who he is dealing with. Karate, Kung-Fu, kickboxing are great ways to improve your fighting abilities.
2. Use self defense
If you don’t have all the time or either the appropriate body to learn such kind of martial arts, then just learn self-defense techniques that will protect you at the hour of need and will buy you enough time to run away. Like learn Tang Soo Do which will teach you how to break free from different kind of holds and disable the enemy without using strength.
1. Be compassionate
All bullies have a troubled life at home and try to gain happiness by giving other what they receive. So learn to show compassion to them and treat them with a good hearted gesture and gratitude when they need it the most. Like help them out studying for an exam or share your lunch. Though it’s only a half chance, it’s truly worth a try.