TOP TEN WAYS TO WIN YOUR EX BACK
Things were going great. The relationship seemed perfect when it was new. The romance, the curiosity, the ‘getting to know each other better’ part, everything seemed so beautiful until… Until things started to appear, problems, fights over petty issues, irritating habits and all the things one hopes to keep their relationship away from. So it all resulted in a breakup and now, you wish that you could turn the hands of the clock back and do everything possible to save your relationship. Well, don’t you worry because it is never too late and there is never a wrong time to do the right thing. Here are ten ways to boost your chances of getting back with your ex.
10. GO BACK IN TIME:
Recall all the good times you and your ex had. Think about the wonderful time you spent together. It might be a vacation together, it might be a special dinner, it might be something romantic or it might be something very close to your heart. When you do that, do remember the bad times too. It is important to remind yourself of all the bad times you had and the reasons behind them. The reason I suggest this is so that you can have a perfect idea of the things you ex loved and the causes that were not good for your relationship. It will help you ensure that your second stint together will be a more fruitful one.
9. RASH DECISION? RUSH BACK TO YOUR EX:
If there was a huge fight where mean words were exchanged and the whole decision to split was a rash one, be the bigger person and apologize to make things right. A person rarely means what he does or says out of anger but that does not mean that such a behavior needs to be put up with every single time. Anger is usually the product of accumulated stress from various problems in life. So if you are the one who has a short temper, you can always go for anger management therapies. If it is your ex, you can probably explain it to him/her that the issue needs to be dealt with.
8. BE CRYSTAL CLEAR:
It is advisable that you sit down with your ex and discuss the reasons for the break-up. If it were your mistakes, you must be ready to accept them and assure your ex that you won’t make them again. When it comes to the mistakes that were committed by your ex, follow the policy of forgive and forget but making it clear that repeating mistakes would be the crime.
7. STAY ALOOF AND TAKE ALL THE TIME YOU NEED:
It is best not to say anything for the first few days. If the decision to split was not completely mutual and you did not make it clear that you were not of the same opinion as him/her of ending it, you must wait till the emotional cyclones inside you calm down. If you say anything before you have contemplated the entire process of splitting up, right from the first instance of problems arising in your relationships you will be most likely saying things that will drive your ex farther than he/she already is.
6. REMEMBER YOUR EX’S IMPORTANT LIFE EVENTS:
To show that you still care for your ex, it is very essential that you remember his/her important life events, birthdays for instance. I am talking not just about birthdays and other such stuff but what I am advising is that you constantly stay updated of what is going on in your ex’s life. You get to know about a promotion that he/she has been awarded and you should be the first on eto congratulate your ex. It will go a long way in helping you win your ex back.
5. ABSTAIN FROM DATING:
Yes, you must abstain from dating. Even if your ex is not or I must say, ESPECIALLY WHEN YOUR EX IS NOT! You must be the one to stop yourself from jumping back into the dating field. If you really want your ex back then you should have eyes only for him/her. If you go back to dating, your ex might interpret it as your decision to move on in life and this is going to make her want to move on even more.
4. DON’T STAY DISCONNECTED:
If you don’t want to spoil any chances of getting back with your ex, you would not want to make the mistake of staying disconnected from him/her. Keep texting and keep calling on a regular basis. You should not come across as desperate but you should make sure that he/she knows that you still care about his/her well being and possibly are ready to give it another try and try to make things right.
3. IF ONE OF YOU CHEATED, EXPLAIN OR THINK WHY:
It is very essential to understand that there is a difference between why men cheat and why women cheat. Men cheat because they are not pleased with the physical relationships they are involved in and hence look for something new. Women cheat because they are emotionally attached and the moment they feel unappreciated, they are more likely to cheat. So discussing why the cheating happened will help both of you understand the problem better and increase the chances of arriving at a useful set of solutions in case you both decide to get back together.
2. DON’T EVEN DARE TO PLAY GAMES WITH YOUR EX:
Are you completely sure that getting back with your ex is really what you want? If yes, then for the love of God, do not even dare to play games with your ex. If you do, you might send signals that you would not want to or your ex might misinterpret the signals that you are intentionally sending. Trying to have a second shot at the relationship is no joke and you must be serious about it. The way you behave around your ex should be genuine. It is important to be patient but patience only works as long as you are doing the right thing.
1. PROVE YOUR EX WRONG:
If she said that you could never quit smoking, there is no better way of saying, “Anything for you!” than you quitting. It is always best to have your partner criticize you, because he/she is a mirror which always shows you the truth about yourself. Show your ex that you can be a better person and you are willing to accept your faults and work upon them.